1:1 Manager Meetings

Its sad, but it sounds like you have had bad managers.I myself am a mid-level manager. I have 1x1s with my employees. I also have 1x1 with my manager (the CTO).I personally look forward to my 1x1 with my manager, the CTO, each week. I find them very useful. Without them we always meet in the context of other projects and often around other people. Having dedicated time to talk one-on-one is very nice.I know that my employees enjoy one-on-ones with me, because by default I generally only

I seem to be going against the grain here, but I actually find them generally useful. I have a 1-2-1 with my Line Manager every 4 weeks and I find it great to discuss what I have been doing.My manager asks about what ive been working on, if the pace is good for me and if there is anything holding me back.I can be frank on how I feel about things (Ive mentioned that I felt I wasnt doing any productive work, because I wasnt comfortable with the experience I had and didnt want to slow down th

"Most teammates value it and usually when they don't it's because they haven't seen one conducted well."I feel like you fall into the second category (and I don't mean that in a bad way, I'm in the same boat right now)In my last place, weekly 1-1, which almost always went ahead. Current place, 1-1 once every 6-9 months (it's basically end of year review, or when shit hits the fan).But having been part of both the good and bad; - It's ok to ha

I had a job where my Manager didn't schedule weekly 1:1s, and what ended up happening is that the only face time I got with my manager was when I did something wrong and needed to get beaten up. I dreaded all contact. After some years of this, I suggested we have weekly 1:1s instead, and it was great, because we could share other topics: good things, when things were going good, career growth, etc. Totally changed things.

If you're finding that your 1:1's are increasingly useless, consider spacing them out more. Ask to meet every other week or monthly. Set an agenda with things to talk about that are important to the role. Additionally, setting hard time limits will condense it to what matters. Start with 30m every other week, move to 15 or monthly if it still isn't useful.

I've always had weekly 1:1s with my manager and I like them. For me it's not about not being able to "manage yourself" but just about keeping an open conversation going. Maybe get some heads-up on priority changes or new directions of the company.Sometimes they are only 5-10 minutes long but having a long running fixed slot is beneficial to me. If there's something to discuss it's easier to just bring it up there than scheduling a meeting out of the blue which ma

Would never work for a manager who doesn't think 1:1s are important

I use my 1-1 in several waysA) Get info from my manager that they don’t necessarily want broadcast (speculation/uncommitted plans, inside perspective on what went down on something, etc…). Depends on the manager and your relationship, but I’d say 75%+ of my managers have been willing to give me info 1-1 that I wouldn’t get in a large setting.B) Updates/discussions about side projects or other things that don’t fit into our other forums- putting together the holiday party, intervi

The problem there isn't the tool ("one on one") but the surrounding process in your organization from what it sounds like.In my experience, having a weekly 1:1 with your manager works really well. If that's a frequent and regular occurrence, there's nothing uncomfortable about it.It's a weekly block of time where you can discuss the priorities, give feedback, talk about things outside of work or start salary negotiations or role changes. If there's a week

Your 1:1's shouldn't be about your work and progress on a project. It should be about "you" and how you feel about your position in the team, the things that are bugging you, etc.However, often, before you can have a meaningful conversation with your manager you need to have build some sort of relationship first. By having a scheduled based (e.g. every two weeks) 1:1's will allow you to create a report with your manager. You can talk about anything, doesn't have