Abusive Relationship Analogies

Commenters debate using abusive relationship metaphors for tech platforms, jobs, or other situations, discussing abuse dynamics, victim justification, and whether it trivializes real domestic or emotional abuse.

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BDSM E.g abuse abusive abused relationships domestic relationship abuses women physical verbal

Sample Comments

51lver Sep 28, 2018 View on HN

There is something wrong with abuse.

commandlinefan Apr 10, 2018 View on HN

abuse? That's a bit of a stretch.

onewaystreet May 27, 2015 View on HN

Being in an abusive relationship is bad for people.

noisem4ker Oct 4, 2019 View on HN

"If you don't like being abused, go find someone who will not abuse you."

natch Oct 26, 2018 View on HN

Better for the abuser, you mean?

yieldcrv Jul 7, 2022 View on HN

take a moment to think about whether you consistently are in abusive relationships because of one redeeming thing the other person did

greg_a Sep 13, 2019 View on HN

That sounds like "abuse" in itself!

Abuse doesn't have to be physical.

jobigoud Feb 22, 2017 View on HN

I still can't understand how this doesn't fall into the abusive clause group.

mmhsieh Mar 19, 2021 View on HN

in any cycle of abuse, bad treatment is a feature and not a bug.