Solitude vs Loneliness

You are socially and mentally rich since you can really choose and enjoy being alone and rarely feel lonely. Good for you. But for some other people, when they feel a need to socialize or talk to a friend, like you said, they may not be able to find somebody to talk to or share their feelings with. I guess this is what the blog post meant.I wish that all of us could enjoy aloneness, this is really something precious, not only from productivity point of view. When we spend too much time living

You don't really. You just have to make the assumptions that 1) the proportion between the two groups isn't radically increasing recently in favor of people who want to be alone, and 2) that when a higher proportion of people who are alone report being sad about that and sadder and sicker in general as compared to people who are not, they're not trying to trick you.

"We note further that people who have isolated themselves from others or who live in solitude manifest this defect less frequently than individuals or groups of people inclined or condemned to sociability"

not everyone has or wants friends and loved ones. time spent alone would increase happiness too.

It isn't just you, but also consider that this kind of situation is somewhat common now and probably won't last> And here I am, again, in the torture of solitary confinement.If you spending time alone is torture, is it torture because of the loneliness or is it torture because you aren't at peace with yourself?I get that connection is needed, but if you're in a situation where it's inconvenient or hard to find you shouldn't be attacking yourself because

Boy, HN loves articles about solitude and loneliness. And it's a distinction that often crops up in discussion here.I think there's a balance here, and cultivating some amount of loneliness -- not solitude -- is also good. For example, two people in my life are "Alice" and "Bob", who have been married for decades. Alice once told me that one of Bob's great weaknesses was that he'd been alone for too long in his teens and 20s. This had benefits: Bob'

I think it has to do with loneliness so many complain about. When being social is seen as waste of time useless thing, people dont socialize except in work. And that has consequences precisedly when yoi need friend the most or when work is highly competitive.

I haven't read the article (and would prefer not to experience both the site and the writing) but I would guess what the author means is that getting rid of loneliness will remove people's drive to avoid being alone.Frankly I think it's fine. PR and marketing people have put a lot of effort into making people anxious about this when the reality is that socializing in a late stage imperial society tends to be a net loss for most people and they are actually better off alone.T

Mentioning loneliness and then complaining about them socializing is kind of a self own

From the article:> These findings suggest that simply spending time with others (vs. alone) is not associated with a reduced burden of loneliness and may even backfire.As a member ranking pretty low on the socialization needs scale, I would suggest that the regular barrage of "you need a social life / people in your life at the end of your life" media isn't actually balanced with "learn how to be happy by yourself, and with yourself" counterparts.But I w