Avoiding Comparison to Others

If you're still comparing yourself to others - you're a far way from where you have the potential to be

At least at first, stop comparing yourself with others. Compare yourself today with yourself yesterday and look for improvement. This is absolutely not your last chance to get your life back on track. Your last chance won't occur until you are on your deathbed. And maybe look a little beyond HN. There are people out there who are still asking, optimistically,"what do I want to be when I grow up?". . .and enjoying the journey, which is rarely a straight line, travelled throug

Are you comparing yourself to others? That’s the trap I am in, but I’ve tried to turn it into a positive as it drives ambition. Maybe you are an aspiring person and you want to be like Bill or Elon. Most of us will never be. No matter what your salary or position, someone will always be “more successful.”Use it to drive you and no discourage you.Now if you are discussing problems with relationships, that’s a whole other website.Good luck to you!

First of all: "If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans."*In the terms of overall benefits, I rather prefer to be the worst in group of people than the best. There's nothing beneficial in being that one people admire/want to be (since money are not the issue).I got friend from childhood that were at Google internships tw

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

it makes me feel inadequate compared to more successful peopleDon't get sucked into other people's vanity, greed, and envy cycle.Why would you want to be like them? Life isn't a video game. We don't "win" by having the highest score tallied in dollar signs.

You are comparing yourself to others. That's what's happening. You aren't the only one.

i agree i think who you're measuring yourself against is responsible for it. comparison is the thief of joy but in a professional competitive setting it becomes a rather vicious and pernicious thief, thankfully once you realise the only competition is with your past/present self, it subsides.

I have a feeling few people on HN have this problem.I bet a much more pernicious problem for people on HN is the opposite; comparing yourself to the most successful 0.1% of your field and wondering why you're not as successful yet.So, for HN, I'd suggest the opposite. Take a step back once in a while and do compare yourself to normal. Not to gloat, but to put all of your "successful in the first world problems" in perspective.

Here's the fix: don't compare yourself to others - compare your today's self to your tomorrow's self (ie: grow your own abilites instead).I really suggest reading "Nonviolent Communication" (http://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Mars...), which gives a lot of insight on these topics.