Gender Roles in Parenting

"women in particular have responsibilities outside work"Yeah? And men don't?

We might be rising into positions of power, but how many years did we spend without being able to vote or to even being allowed into universities, etc? In certain cultures or countries women have been always well considered, but in others it's not so clear.Housewives being inferior? No way. Being a housewife requires a lot of skill, energy and certain sacrifices that most modern women (me included) don't want to make. Managing a house is like managing your own little company. Except you cover

What are their wife's doing? Maybe the chores are inequally distributed and they sacrifice more career wise

I very strongly agree. In the very much socially just rush to get women in the workforce we've lost sight of the damage done to children by separation from their parents, and the damage done to relationships by the staggering workload of managing children and a household with both partners working full-time. I would very much love being able to fluidly transition between periods of being a house-husband and employment, and my girlfriend feels likewise.

I don't believe this is sexism at its core. The entire west society is built on the one axiom that work means value. Everything else is extra. That's even worse in the US.I'm in a similar situation where I'd love to be a parent full-time and be essentially free to live my life. But I could never do that even if my wife wanted to work and let me stay at home. With one person's salary, you can't really sustain a house unless you drastically drop your living standar

Sounds like you have kids now and that's wonderful!"Wife being the only woman working" is an odd metric though. My wife went from being an ER physician when we met (fun times during COVID pregnant with our first) to doing telemedicine after we had our second, to doing that part time after we had our third.Similar to many women in our circle who are highly educated and professional, kids mean "working less" but this decision represents a desired and meaningful trade

More like at most 2 years of drastically altered lifestyle, after that you just send them to a daycare and go to work and then at home they are able to walk, talk and eat by themselves and you can get a babysitter and go on a date. For these 2 years we have to be grown up about existence of reproductive dimorphism, most obviously breastfeeding but also fathers and their children learning parenting relationship as an acquired skill rather than instinct. Rather than demanding that there is no stat

I think it's mainly about our modern gender roles and expectations, where both partners tend to work and earn a similar amount. With traditional gender norms, the husband was expected to be the main breadwinner, while the wife wouldn't earn much. So her subjective opportunity cost of quitting her job, staying at home and having children was quite low.Not saying that one is better than the other, just that this seems the most plausible explanation I've heard so far.

The fundamental unaddressed issue in our society is that having children is treated as something that's optional, a luxury, and even though the society fundamentally depends on its constituents procreating, we continue to pretend that having children is not a necessary part of one's life. Which is true individually, but not true on the macro level.Anecdotally, observing my own family and that of my (mostly well-off STEM) social circle, I can tell you that this is when women really t

Two big things stick out in all of this to me...1) There's the idea that one parent does not work for a company.This is hard for a lot of men and women to handle. A lot is put into the idea that adults need to be part of the economic productivity cycle or you're failing. Stay at home dad's are looked down on by others a lot due to this. It happens to many stay at home mom's, too.Think about it. If both parents work they make more so they can consume more. That means