Attractiveness in Dating

This cluster debates the importance of physical attractiveness versus personality in dating, relationships, and social success, referencing studies, personal experiences, and factors like gender differences and cultural influences.

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IQ AFAIK NOT attractive women men attraction beauty personality average facial attracted physical

Sample Comments

Mountain_Skies Oct 6, 2023 View on HN

Weird you left out gender and attractiveness.

known May 1, 2010 View on HN

Isn't 'attractiveness' relative?

antisthenes Nov 2, 2016 View on HN

It's like the difference between being an attractive person vs non-attractive.

saddestcatever Mar 28, 2013 View on HN

People are generally attracted by attractive people.

aridiculous Mar 29, 2013 View on HN

Don't forget conventional attractiveness

roflc0ptic Nov 13, 2020 View on HN

I mean, this isn't really about my looks per se, just the growing sense that I've been the beneficiary of positive discrimination to give anecdotal corroboration to the study. That said, people have repeatedly told me I look like Jude Law and Tobey Maguire. I have repeatedly been a focus of group discussion among strangers, "which celebrity does this guy look like?" Strangers also ask "Do I know you from somewhere?" No, I'm just pleasing to look at in a familia

baryphonic Aug 9, 2020 View on HN

I'm not surprised. In many cases, I think the causality arrow runs backwards, from beliefs to (un)attractiveness. A lot of attractiveness is inborn, but a surprising amount is also related to personal choice (such as weight, hair style, fashion choices, personal hygiene, grooming, body art, piercings and even scent). My personal experience has indicated that people on the Left are much more likely to disregard these attributes. Many on the Left take an "individualistic" approach t

ravenstine Aug 31, 2021 View on HN

No worries. Yes, it totally can twist what attractiveness means to someone.

jimmyvalmer Nov 8, 2021 View on HN

Realize that looks aren't everything.

doki_pen Jun 11, 2010 View on HN

If you think looks don't matter, then this shouldn't bother you as you are just as likely to make a match no matter how attractive the subjects are. If you think looks do matter then you have no right to complain. I think people are just upset to learn that they are in the unattractive group.