Finding Romantic Partners

Discussions center on advice, challenges, and strategies for finding compatible romantic partners, including mindset shifts from transactional dating to genuine connections and critiques of common approaches.

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jacquesm Jan 1, 2011 View on HN

Suggestion: stop thinking about it as 'getting a girl' start thinking about it as 'find someone to share and do stuff with'.

l33tbro Feb 5, 2014 View on HN

Finding the right partner isn't trivial.

DangitBobby Apr 3, 2022 View on HN

You might be overestimating your peers' ability to find a date relative to your own.

amanaplanacanal Sep 24, 2025 View on HN

It's just a mismatch of goals: are you looking for a partner, or a date?

awakeasleep Jul 18, 2018 View on HN

If you're not looking for a mate as unique and weird as you are, you're setting yourself up for failure

pingou Apr 15, 2010 View on HN

I can think of a more efficient order to get a romantic partner.

toomuchtodo Apr 3, 2016 View on HN

If you ever interested in a partner...

cat_plus_plus Feb 25, 2023 View on HN

There are millions of lonely guys in decent physical, mental and financial shape who would make devoted husbands and fathers and are actively and obviously looking for a mate. I am sure there are millions of women are like that too, but back when I was looking online around two decades ago, I have never met a normal woman who would give a normal guy some patience to see if initial meeting would grow into a friendship and then a relationship. It always has to be immediate butterflies in the stoma

AlgorithmicTime Dec 14, 2021 View on HN

Why is looking for a romantic partner where you do most of your socializing weird?

TameAntelope Mar 29, 2021 View on HN

That is correct, discussing how to find a romantic partner (especially in the terms you've used) is probably not going to be well received on this particular site.