Elder Care Criticism
The cluster focuses on negative experiences and criticisms of nursing homes, assisted living facilities, and elder care systems, including poor quality of care, high costs, asset exploitation, and alternatives like family or private help.
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I've had a few extended family members who tried the 'money will take care of me' route. So, small sample size warning.It doesn't work out well.The people in the nursing homes/hospice still are only their to be paid. They don't care about you deep down.So, things like bedsores are allowed to fester, cancer diagnoses come a bit later than you'd like, loneliness sets it (especially during covid), your diapers aren't changed all that much, you get se
It's sad but most facilities are like this. If you want your elderly parents to have assistance, either move them in with you or hire private help and verify that they are doing what you want. Nursing homes and care facilities mainly exist to drain the assets of the elderly and then get them on medicaid until they die.
>I would put them in the cheapest elder home I could findI don't think any of them are very cheap.>They need to figure out their life--not lean on me to figure it out for them.At least in the US, there aren't a lot of options unless you're pretty wealthy. Medicare doesn't cover nursing care. Nursing homes cost around $5k a month or so last time I checked. They will literally throw them on the curb if they can't pay.<a href="https://www.nytimes
elderly patients in care homes is a far cry from anyone attempting to do this on their own
Some do.. there are better nursing homes out there.
that's also happeningdid you consider any other reasons why people might be in nursing homes?
A society based on individual agency and transactional dynamics is foundationally incapable of communally taking care of elderly people as they lose their faculties. Some family member or other personally-invested party has to be involved to represent the interests of the elderly person, many times even clashing with the immediate whims of the person themselves. Leaving this dynamic to third parties in the biz creates too many moral hazards to opt for the easy choices, financially drain t
Exactly the same experience with long term care for elderly relatives. It's all about getting their money. Care is perfunctory.
Given the number of people on here who appreciate a good life hack, has anyone got any ideas for other solutions? My family's currently going through the to home or not to home question. Arguments for standard solutions are essentially:- A care home offers full time protection, but displaces the person from their familiar environment. Some care homes also don't attend their patients but focus on making a profit; though we hope that by visiting often and looking at existing patients we can
My mother ran a senior family home for 15 year. Private business founded by her.I do not want to end up in a Medicaid paid for nursing home or family home.Even the stories of her residents coming from other expensive family homes were horrifying.Elder care is horrifying.People die in pain all the time from neglect and incompetence. People who came to her were regularly on their way to a painful death and she brought them back by just not being an idiot and putting in some effort.