Making Friends as Adults

All of the best and longest lasting relationships in my life have been from a shared experience or challenge...school, a band, sports, sometimes work (those seem to maintain a work barrier though).These things tend to occur less naturally later in life for most people, so you have to go out and find them. I'm just approaching the age where my kids will be entering a school system and sports of their own soon, so I expect some relationships will form with other parents through that shared

It is more lack of people one would meet regularly. You don't need perfect match, just passable-to-no match can develop into friendship over time. However, if there is no stabilit in who you meet, friendship wont happen even with great people around - it will remain shallow.

Sorry, I don't agree with the premise of this piece. I'm finding it easier to make connections and friends since I've left school and the place I grew up. Are these BFF-type connections? Not yet since they haven't had the time to really flourish. But with time, I anticipate they will since we share common goals & interests. When you're in your teens/early 20's, you're at the mercy of a small pool of individuals (classmates, neighbors, people in town) that you may have absolutely nothing in c

Those who have had to move locations probably run into this the most. Usually friends formed in school and college are from a time you were young and naive and tend to have the deepest shared bonds.And if you have to leave this behind getting the same level of social connection can be tough. Also some people are extremely friendly by nature, they love being around people and can engage easily, others are more reserved. Work colleagues are usually in a weird space, not strangers but not really

Friendships form when you repeatedly interact with the same person. This is not likely to happen at a random bar, but it most definitely can happen in a cooking class, when volunteering, playing music with people in a band, routinely getting together every Thursday night with others in your local makerspace and so on. Especially if you have to actually work together: perhaps offer your help to a local cause you support, perhaps a CoderDojo?Also, FWIW, very few adults still know their childhoo

I think this is really sick. And it's against the mission of Meta.It's possible, despite what many of these comments say, to build friendships as an adult. It just takes investment. What has helped me the most is:- Bringing connections from one context into another. For example if you have a colleague you like, your relationship can't grow closer unless you start hanging out in a non-work context. Get involved with athletic activities with them. Or if you have similar aged k

I do have to say that making friends with people you do not see every day for weeks on end feels different. I’ve spent more time with my friends from highschool than I will ever spend with any other individual whom I might eventually consider a friend.

Easier said than done, especially after the age of 30. Have lost touch with most friends from college as people invariably pair up and move off to different parts of the country, start families, get busier at work, etc. Making new friends and nurturing those relationships takes a considerable time and energy investment (which I do believe is worth it, but doesn't make it any easier).

This is what is so depressing about going through different life stages too. You make friends most of the time because you happen to be around these people all day. Coworkers, schoolmates, neighbors, relatives, etc. Its tough to keep that up through your life when the reason for you all being at a place consistently disappears too. Even visits a few times a year feel pretty forced and packed in, when you consider how few hours will be spent conversing during that visit versus in past times when

Making friends is getting tricky and here's why I think. Where most people good friends are from? school, college, work, and the like. What's common to these? You get to spend a lot of time together with the same people which creates bonding. That's the key I think. Later in life it's just much harder to spend a lot of time together, and now with remote work it's worse. You kind of need to work hard and once you find people you like, keep trying to meet them and doing st