Dating Gender Imbalances

The cluster discusses asymmetries in modern dating, particularly online, where women are more selective and focus on top-tier men, creating challenges for average men while highlighting hypergamy and selectivity differences.

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LeanderK Jun 15, 2022 View on HN

A while ago I read a study where they looked at the matches of dating-apps and they found that women tend to concentrate on the most impressive (so best looking, successful) men available whereas men just try to get someone roughly comparable. This meant a huge imbalance and would example the discrepancy seen here.

version_five Aug 4, 2023 View on HN

I don't think I understand your point. If it was a woman I'd think there was something wrong with her or she was even lazier, because everything being equal it's much easier for women to find interested men. Or has impossibly high standards. But all three could easily be true for the man. Other than the difference on the demand side I don't see why it would be different for a woman.

badrabbit Aug 12, 2022 View on HN

Not neccesarily actively dating but stats show women are only interested in top 10-20% tier of men for casual dating. Casual dating is also taking longer now with marriage becoming more rare. In other words, women change partners more and are content with not having a partner for months at a time between attractive partners.Women are attracted to similar traits much more than men (who are atteacted to like 80% top tier women) which means the too tier men do date more women more constantly tha

exolymph Jan 15, 2021 View on HN

Women on dating sites are looking for reasons to disqualify prospects because there are too many. Men are in the opposite situation.

paulryanrogers Aug 23, 2020 View on HN

Another factor could be that women are generally pickier than men. IIRC some OKCupid research indicated that men seek the top 50% of women (by attractiveness) while women seek the top 20% of men. With the Internet making the dating pool larger this may hit men harder if potential partners feel less pressure to 'settle'.

yodsanklai Oct 29, 2023 View on HN

The situation for men and women in dating isn't symmetric.

spywaregorilla Sep 1, 2022 View on HN

It's still a relevant question. The narrative so many men champion is that women are too picky and it's not fair. If men would be equally picky trying to find worthy men on these platforms, it's a very different story.

tuatoru Jul 8, 2024 View on HN

Some people are actually undertaking this radically novel and risky procedure.It appears that women say they can't find a suitable partner.The reason for that, in turn, is that men are now in the minority in university, and young women (23 - 33) have higher yearly incomes on average than young men.The few men whom women do find suitable are deluged with offers from women, and see no reason to commit to any one woman.1. Chris Williamson's Youtube channel has many videos digg

tamimio Jul 29, 2023 View on HN

Then you should ask these men/women yourself and see. I did ask a while ago some of my younger friends why they aren’t dating, listing several reasons but I believe the answer to your question is feminine hypergamyhttps://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/HypergamyIf you don’t want to ask directly or know no one ask, just give a glimpse on dating issues in platforms like tik

mlboss May 16, 2024 View on HN

The first statement is not unlikely. Most of the women are only attracted to top 20% of males, but most of the men are attracted to top 80% of females. In previous times a female having multiple partners was shamed upon by society which kept this in check and most of the men got a female partner. Now society no longer shames females to have multiple partner which is causing this divide.