Parenting Child Interests

Teach your kids whatever they're interested in, not X utility

I'm 15 so no kids yet but I can still give my perspective. Don't become obsessed with making your kid successful but make sure they are happy first. Especially in these trying times it's important they feel you are there for them. Try to find things they enjoy doing and help them discover different ways of creation but don't push something they don't like.For example, I discovered programming with my dad's help and I like it so much that I am constantly learning

I believe you interpreted their comment as a sort of let them drown in hedonism moment, but from what I'm getting it's really just encouraging giving your kid space to find the joy themselves. You can encourage new forms or methods to see if it'll stick but you still have to let them be their own person. Forcing anything will just make your kid resent that entirely, and for a lot of parents they don't even realize this resentment of [subject/task/etc] also turned in

What ever you do, give your kid a skill. Let them hate you for it.

This considering a kid to be a project seems to have a lot to do with this. All these ideas of how a kid has to be (and also the perfect family with the perfect family home and the perfect family car). I see it the other way round. I am extremely curious to see what kind of person my kid will turn out to be. Granted, there might be a pang of regret in case he wouldn't show any interest in mathematics or science at all, but I don't see myself fighting over it. And I hated school myself, so honest

I recently came across Jane Nelson and positive discipline [1] which I found quite enlightening. I think we often underestimate how well kids understand the importance of things if we sit down and treat them as equals. That said sometimes everyone needs a push, but I think it is important not to push something that is not being enjoyed at all just because "it is good for you".[1] https://m.yo

One thing to understand though (and people who don't have kids don't understand this at all) is that kids are not robots: they're gonna do what they're gonna do, they will (once they grow up a bit) think you're "out of touch" and "don't understand anything". Any effect you have as a parent is not as huge as non-parents think, even if you do a good job. Conversations do sink in, temporarily, but then a hit of dopamine kids get from doing the thing

I'd like to do something like this when I have kids. However I'm afraid that it's just a reflex against the way I was brought up, way too sheltered and forced to go through school and ignore my real interests. I would just be projecting on my kids what I would've wanted for myself, and that's not good.

i tell my kids, "get good at learning and you don't have to get good at any anything else".

I like what you have done. But I'm also afraid that your daughter will quickly get better at prompt engineering instead, and bypass your system prompt (with the help of other children). I'm convinced that no help can replace parents, and we ought to help them learn to love the struggle and taste the sweet fruit of their labors.