School Bullying Experiences

the problem is, how does a kid actually learn how to deal with bullies?just being exposed to bullying does not work. at least it didn't work for me. while i learned to stand up for others, i never learned to stand up for myself. i found only two options: either i am able to turn the bully around by becoming friends with them or i completely remove myself from the situation. and that can mean quitting a job and moving to a different city. (it never was as bad for me, so maybe i am exagger

I had to deal with some alpha-kids at school, but at the time, nobody called that bullying. I also never viewed that as a problem, because I was never heavily beaten and I would also hit back, I hit once a kid so hard that I broke his jaw and nobody ever touched a finger on me and I made very lasting friends after that episode. That made me grow as a person as well, but it wasn't very necessary. I'd rather have not went through this.Other kids on my class didn't fight back and

I wonder what mindset has to do with some of this? I'm speaking as someone who was bullied badly when I was younger, still am I guess, but obviously I have no idea how representative I am individually.When I was first bullied in school it was scary and I was made to feel a victim by my parents and teachers – bullying is bad and therefore me being bullied made me a victim.This got worse the more I tried to get other people to do something about it. I'd tell my parents and teachers

In my experience as a school student there is very little you can do about it beyond making yourself a small target which comes at a fairly high cost.You can make it worse once it happens while being on the receiving end of a wildly hypocritical lecture about how the school "will not tolerate bullying". Standing up to organised group bullying is folly.As an adult you have many more cards to play than that and everyone knows it even if they don't know which cards you have or

i was bullied for a number of years at a local school in my home town (northern UK) from the age of 5 until 10 by the son of my school's headmaster (!!). i was even caned by that headmaster for "telling stories" that his son was bullying me.i learned most of this much, much later as an adult, but TL;dr my parents met many times with the headmaster, who simply refused to believe his son would bully anyone. my father and the headmaster apparently almost came to blows (but didn&#x

Actually eradicating bullying is impossible (if you think you did it, you're not looking close enough) so best to consider it a necessary evil - it's better to experience it in a relatively controlled environment and learn to deal/defend yourself from it so that you are ready with adulthood. Bullying doesn't magically disappear in adulthood and not being prepared for it may make it significantly worse.Also, the problem with bullying isn't bullying itself but that peo

“Ignore the bullies and they’ll go away” doesn’t work in school, why do the kids then grow up and parrot the nonsense to others when they know better?

As someone who was bullied despite adults interceding, I'm curious why you think it being physical makes it better?Interestingly the exact example you gave is something I can see happening when I was a kid as well as now.Bullies gunna bully.

I was bullied, mainly when I was between 10 and 11. This was in the 80's. I recall being both verbally and physically attacked by large groups of other students. My teachers didn't believe me so I couldn't turn to them.In one of the events 8 kids chased me several miles through neighborhoods and fields. Eventually they caught and surrounded me in a front yard. Luckily, an older woman opened her door and had me step inside her home. A few minutes later she drove me home. I'

This is going to be perhaps the least popular comment I've ever made on HN, but I will relate to you the advice my parents gave me when I was a socially awkward, introverted, bullied middle-schooler:Dad: Suck it up. Mom: Get over it.Being bullied in school doesn't mean you have to be bullied for life. As a kid, things can be stacked against you. You're surrounded by people who are older, stronger, more powerful, and more capable than you. But you don't have to be bu